We often wait to feel confident before we jump and do those things that really scare us – but the actual ‘jump’ is the one thing that gives us the confidence we are looking for.
‘You can’t be that kid standing at the top of the waterslide, overthinking it. You have to go down the chute” (Tina Fey)
You ever had that feeling where you want something so badly but you keep telling yourself that you will do it when you feel more confident. And the more you wait for that confidence to arrive, the more you hear little miss self doubt whispering in your ear.
‘You can’t do it”
“You are not good enough”
“Who are you to think you can do this”
“Everyone will laugh at you”
Yep there she is. And the more she whispers the more you put it off until another day. And that day doesn’t come.
How do you think that affects your confidence – do you think that makes you stronger? More confident to do it next time? Nope.
The only way to get more confidence is doing the thing that scares you.
It is good to feel uncomfortable because it means we are growing and learning. We are getting stronger when we survive the uncomfortable. Our brains learn that the fear has subsided because nothing ‘bad’ happened to us when we jumped.
Our thoughts, feelings and behaviour are all connected – you can’t have one without the other, and most of the time it is easy to spot the feelings and behaviour, but not always the thoughts that go with it.
These are the things that can stop us before we even start. The negative way we talk to ourselves. Can you hear your own thoughts? What are you saying to yourself?
We can flip this and start to talk to ourselves in a more positive, empowering way, to push ourselves to take that step outside of our comfort zone and take the action we need. When you start facing things in this way your confidence will grow.
If you are looking for tips and techniques on boosting your confidence and facing fears that hold you back, then come and hang out with me in my awesome private group called The F Movement. This is no ordinary group. I set Mini Challenges to help you find your fierce when it comes to promoting yourself and your business. To being more visible even if you are an introvert by nature. Expect to be inspired and supported by me and the other incredible women in there doing it all to take that action that you have been putting off taking.
**Gemma Stow works with female entrepreneurs who are introverts and are ready to take themselves and their business to the next level. To find their fierce and take that all important action. As well as private coaching, she runs a membership called Club Fierce that gives that personal touch to women who are looking for support, accountability and an environment that breeds self belief. More info HERE. **